Self-Discovery: Falling in Love Again with Oneself

We all find ourselves in this unique moment in time, where we are required to self-quarantine at home. For some of us, this moment of isolation was necessary. ​

This moment fosters an incredible opportunity to learn more about ourselves, to pay attention to areas that we often neglect, and to reflect on what we really desire out of life. Whether you have been on a self-discovery journey pre COVID- 19, or not, knowing yourself in a meaningful way can help you get the most out of your life. 

Rediscovering one’s self can take some time. For me, rediscovery was necessary because of an undesirable 2019. I am an advocate for self-care, self-love, self-appreciation, however, I found myself at a moment in my life where I was confused, hurt, and disappointed. Therefore, I decided to react and rediscover myself. As someone who encourages and believes in the beauty of all things “self,” I would like to share two steps that I have found helpful for my rediscovering:

1. Reflect

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Reflecting is an excellent way to examine your past and current. Honestly, our future is often shaped by what we have learned from our past. Reflection helps us when we are searching for direction. Creating a timeline of your life may help for those who are more visual.  When I created my timeline, I realized that I didn't like the same music or books from 5 years ago. Personally, I keep journals and use them to reread previous ideas. I completely understand that one's past can be painful and emotional. I also know that the future can be scary and weary but taking time to reflect allows you to the opportunity to see all that you have overcame. Reflecting is necessary because it gives you a better understanding and acknowledgment of what makes you unique. Lastly, reflecting can be emotionally exhausting; therefore, I encourage you to always be kind to yourself. 

2. React  

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The next best step is to react. After having time to reflect, you now have to respond to making the changes that you want. I knew that I didn’t want to shallow myself in thoughts; therefore, it was time to do things that brought me joy. I encourage you to surround yourself around people, ideas, books, and content that make you happy. It is essential to make a conscious effort to indulge in activities that you want for yourself. If you start to notice that there aren’t many things that bring you joy, then it’s time to try new ways of being. In reacting now, this would be the time to try a new sport or hobby such as cooking. For some this may mean finally booking that solo vacation or taking yourself out to eat once a month. For me, I knew that I liked writing. Therefore, I put myself out there and wanted to experience writing for an online platform. During my time of reflecting, I was also inspired to start a business, so it was only right that I acted on my inspiration.
 
In closing, I know 2020 began undesirable; but we can take the time to rediscover ourselves for once this season is over. I was fortunate to see this little affirmation and wish to share with those who are rediscovering themselves:

​You attract what you are and create what you think about.
Act like the person you want to become.
Think like the person you want to become.
Nothing changes in your life unless you make the decision and commitment to do so.
Hold an image in your mind of how you wish to see yourself.
Visualize it every day, and you will unconsciously start to do things that move you toward that particular person.

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Written By: Kenya Kirkman

My name is Kenya Kirkman. I was born and raised in Brooklyn. I am an avid traveler, and currently reside in Harlem. My favorite countries thus far have been Portugal and Cuba. My goal in life is to inspire all while becoming the best me.