Are [toxic] long-lived marriages, a goal to strive for or a generational curse to break?
In minority culture, children often look upon the lasting marriages of their grandparents and parents as something they want for themselves. While the idea of marriage is not the problem, it becomes one when people maintain toxic relationships simply in order to reach this goal. This turns into people staying in unhealthy relationships with the hopes of making it last. While it is true that any lasting relationship will have its ups and downs, relationships that are always “down” are ultimately not good to stay in. When considering the relationships of their grandparents, people tend to forget that many were not in the position or did not have the resources to leave their marriages, leading to them naturally being longer. They had no choice but to “quietly endure and silently suffer.”
“Quietly endure, silently suffer and patiently wait.”― Martin Luther King Jr., Why We Can't Wait
questions about those many years we were not able to see, we will realize many things. Not all of them were rainbows and gumdrops; there were times that, if they have the means to, would have resulted in them leaving the marriage. We must not only look at what we are shown of someone else’s relationship and must, in turn, consider the aspects that we cannot see.
Written By Princess Miller