Dear 12 Year Old Me
Dear 12-year-old Me,
You woke up and you opened your eyes. First and foremost, be grateful for that! There will be days that you will wish that was not true. Before anything remember to be grateful for every single day. This simple act will create a great impact on your life. Love yourself before you even call yourself to love someone else. This will save you a great deal of heartbreak. Never question why you should love yourself.
Love yourself because you are you, and there is no one in this world like you. Love yourself because you have meaning. You were created to have a purpose. It is okay if you do not know what it is. It is okay to not have everything figured out, even if it seems like everyone around you does. Take time to find what you like to do. What makes you happy. Never settle. Allow yourself to have a lifetime of joy from something you love as opposed to a lifetime of average.
Embrace your features.
Do not be afraid of what makes you unique.
Embrace the culture and the dynamic history that makes up your being.
Wear your hair out more.
Put that lip gloss on.
Rock those hoops.
Soak up the sun, do not run away from it.
Strut your stuff.
Find your confidence. Find yourself. Most importantly, do not let anyone diminish you, including you. Know yourself and your beauty. Your hair is beautiful. Your skin is beautiful. You are your own power. Seek to discover it. You do not know how powerful you are.Learn the history of your skin; the unique coveted quality of your hair.
Lastly, it is okay to not be okay. It is okay to have bad days. Not every day is going to be a walk in a park, there will be rain. However, it is what you do in addressing those days. Ask for help when you need it. Do not suffer in silence.
You were forced to grow up fast. From a young age, the eldest black girls are expected to do so much. To take on the domestic role—cooking, cleaning, taking care of younger siblings. Being manicured for what they are“supposed” to do when they get older. This forces us to suppress our own feelings and hide our emotions. Then it creates a cycle with our own daughters because it was all that we were taught. This limits our ability. It limits our perception of our own future, it allows for the suppression of our own hopes and dreams, and it creates the idea that the only thing that we are meant to do on earth is to submit to a man, create babies, and care for the family.
You are not limited to this. Know that you are so much more than you think. You have your whole life ahead of you. Again I say, never let anyone diminish you, tell you that you cannot do something, or that you are limited to one thing; including you. Most importantly, I love you now. I am sorry that I did not love you when I should have. Go take on the world.
Written By Maia Wells
10/21/2019 09:36:22 am
10/22/2019 12:45:08 am
Beautiful and so insightful. You were speaking to me. Thank you for your words of wisdom
10/21/2019 10:57:31 am
An absolutely great recipe for finding and being yourself. It’s well written and filled with ideas of how to be successful. These concepts should be taught very early in life. Good job!!!!
10/21/2019 05:52:33 pm
So proud of the young woman you have grown into and the self realizations that you have owned. No one loves you like you...except for maybe your mama😘. You are beautiful and strong.
10/22/2019 01:41:49 pm
Beautiful. Just like the author. 💛
10/22/2019 09:51:48 pm
This was AMAZING Maia! I'm on my self love journey as well and get so excited to see people I care about finding themselves as well. Beautifully written❤
10/23/2019 08:32:52 am
Beautiful writing sweetheart. I'm here for it conceptually and I really appreciate your style of writing. Hang tough and know that you have a village of people around to support you in every single way.
10/24/2019 08:08:27 pm
What you have written is timeless, speaking to women of all ages, race and nationalities. It moved me to tears. You are so amazing and wiser than you realize. May God continue to give you the passion to use your talents to reach women and people all over the world. I look forward to reading more of your writing. Love you ❤️
10/25/2019 08:50:08 am
I have received several positive and complimentary comments from everyone I forwarded this to. Everyone said it was
10/25/2019 04:33:04 pm
10/28/2019 04:24:05 pm
Maia, this is amazing and a blessing. I can certainly apply this to 34 year old me. I love you darling! Continue to be a beaming light. 🙏🏾
10/30/2019 10:58:50 am
Absolutely motivating. I was blown away by the feelings and understanding of one's self. Keep this in your heart and mind so that when life gets tough, and it will, remember this. Love your self.
Mary A. Williams
11/11/2019 04:46:24 pm
You got my attention with the first paragraph, and from then on through this entire read I was riveted to all that you had to say!
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