Social Media: Friend or Foe
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Written By Nakiyah McCafferty
Whenever I turn on my television now, I always tend to see drama and/or negativity that is created to degrade African Americans. At the age of 20, I am growing up in an era where social media and/or reality tv can make or break your career/life. There have been several incidents in my life where I have personally seen how reality television and social media have affected my generation. Social Media and Reality television, in my opinion, are the two biggest threats to not only African Americans but young adults as well. For example, The Love and Hip-Hop Franchise, Basketball Wives, Bad Girls Club, and the Real Housewives of Atlanta are well-known reality tv shows that have not only affected the African American population, but it has also affected the way that people perceive African American women.
I personally remember being a pre-teen watching Bad Girls Club and I thought that their actions would soon become my new norm when I got older. The reason that I did not let their actions become my new norm is that I knew that I did not want to become known as a vixen or an industry woman. Growing up in the 21st century with social media and reality tv definitely has its’ pros and cons. For example, I personally watched Cardi B get her start on Love and Hip-Hop: New York, but during this time while she was on Love and Hip Hop, she did not act like 2020 new and improved Cardi B. Along with being on Love and Hip Hop: New York, she dropped two mixtapes while being on the show. Cardi B soon realized that the only reason that her music career would not blow up was because of Mona Scott-Young. Mona Scott-Young may be known as a television producer, but she has not placed African American women in a positive limelight. For example, Kimberly Michelle who is also known as K. Michelle personally left the Love and Hip-Hop Franchise to flourish in her career endeavors. When K. Michelle left the Love and Hip-Hop Franchise, everyone clearly saw that she was willing to save her personal life and her image before letting Mona-Scott Young tarnish it any further. To this day, I still watch reality television, but I also have learned that when the cameras are not rolling, everyone lives their own life. As an African American who watches these shows, I personally know that everyone is not perfect, but where and when will society draw the line between reality and real life.
As for Cardi B and K. Michelle, leaving the Love and Hip-Hop Franchise was a great decision for both of their careers. Before Cardi B had officially left Love and Hip-Hop: New York, she had already established her brand on social media, but when she was officially through with Love and Hip-Hop: New York, social media helped her brand and her music to excel. On June 16th,2017, Cardi Bs’ lead single, Bodak Yellow was released and because of the help from social media, she became an overnight female rap artist. As for K. Michelle, she returned to the Love and Hip-Hop Franchise in 2016, but she used her social media platform to not only her promote her music, but she also used it to promote her business ventures. Social Media does not always have to be used to put people in a negative limelight, if you have self-control and know what you would like to do with your life/career, you can use social media to your advantage.
On the other hand, social media and reality tv has not always been around to promote African Americans in a positive limelight. During the 1830s, Minstrel shows were extremely popular, but they were created based on the comic enactment of racial stereotypes (The Editors of Encyclopedia Britannica, 2019). Minstrel shows were personally created by White Americans to embarrass African Americans. The bigger question is, “If our ancestors went through many vigorous and dangerous years of slavery, why would we get on national television and purposely embarrass ourselves?”. What adds fuel to the fire, is that an African American woman by the name Mona Scott-Young would do whatever it takes to become successful even if it means that she would have to devalue African Americans as a whole. I personally may never meet Mona Scott-Young, but if I did I would first start off by saying, “ Is all of this really worth it?” or “What would you say if your son or daughter was on national television fighting over nonsense?”. I may never know why Mona Scott-Young does what she does, or I may not even know why some African Americans purposely act ignorant on social media, but I must say that when will it stop.
Not only are African Americans as a culture are being watched, but African American women are definitely being watched. Every move that we make as a collective inspires other ethnicities to do what we are blessed with. Instead of constantly letting people devalue us, we should all remember that we all live on Earth and that at the end of the day, we are all human beings that will continuously be judged by other human beings. Instead of thinking about how we can become famous off of fighting on national television, we should first think about how young women that will see us on tv will feel and act once she has seen it. What may be considered cool on reality television, is not actually cool in real life once you are being put in handcuffs for domestic violence or worse. I will never know what the future holds for African Americans and our culture, but I do know that we must continue to move forward.
As a community, we can continue to push one another by reminding each other to accomplish one's' goal, and by speaking positivity/light into one another. We are ALL destined for greatness. Rosa Parks once said, “You must never be fearful about what you are doing when it is right”.
In closing, I would like to leave you with tips and advice on differentiating between reality versus your real life.
1.) Everyone is not meant to be a Celebrity: By saying this, I am implying that the world cannot run off just celebrities alone. The world needs Doctors, Lawyers, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, and even Teachers. It should not always be about fame or about how much money you will make, it should be about what you are truly passionate about.
2.) African Americans are CONSTANTLY watched: As a culture, we have always and will always be peoples’ main topics of their conversation. Instead of giving other cultures negative reasons to talk down on African Americans, we should give them positive reasons on why African Americans are amazing and wonderful people.
3.) Melanin Magic: Remember that Black Girls Rock! There are people in the world today, that pay plastic surgeons millions of dollars just to look like African American women. At the end of the day, everyone is amazing and wonderful in their skin, but it is something about having Melanin Magic that triggers people.
4.) Reality TV versus Real Life: Remember that reality tv is here for our entertainment and that it should not tremendously affect how we act and what we do on a daily. As a community, we cannot let what we see on tv, our cellphones, and what we hear on the radio brainwash us. When it is time to go to sleep at night, we must ALL remember that we are human beings, with normal lives that deal with everyday obstacles and barriers. Some of us may just have a bigger platform, but with that platform, I personally encourage you to put African American men, women, and people in a positive limelight.